Just Friends

Lately I have been wondering if I could be more than “just friends” with one of my guy friends. As I’ve mentioned before, if a guy is my friend and I have a good time with him then most likely I’d be down to try dating and see if there’s something more there between us. Not that I’m pining away for the guy, but I’m open to the idea.

Well recently I was feeling like maybe I was in this situation. Could there be more there than just friendship here? Am I misinterpreting his words and actions as a friend to be more? Initially my solution was time – give it time and see what, if anything, happens. Again, as I’ve said before, I’m a big believer that if a guy is interested he will ask you out. And for my personality type (strong/independent) I need a guy who is not afraid to take charge and go after what he wants. So I decided to wait and give it time. And while I do think that was a good plan, you wanna know what an even better plan was…. Knowing right away.

While I technically didn’t get my answer directly from the source, I did get some background on the situation and was able to more clearly see the line between friendship and actual relationship interest for this person. It’s kinda hard to explain while being as vague as I’m being. Sorry about that. And of course I can’t say that I know with 100% certainty this guy’s interest level, but I feel like I better understand his personality and his relationships with women that led me to reach the conclusions I was reaching, even though that was not his intention. And now that I just made that even more complicated, let’s move on.

Knowing that we would be staying in that “just friends” zone has made things so much easier for me. 

I’m no longer reading into things that are said or done wondering if there’s a hidden meaning there. I’m no longer worried about every little thing I say and do (not that I was overly worried before, but you know what I mean). Knowing where I stand just gives me the freedom to enjoy our friendship without any other thoughts or feelings getting in the way. 

I was talking with a friend about this situation and they were worried I’d be all disappointed. And while of course it sucks when things seem like they could be something more and then they don’t turn out, I was almost more relieved just to know where I stand. And now I can just enjoy having a good friend to have some fun with. Pressure’s off.